10 Ways To Deal With People

1. Get in touch with yourself. The better that you know yourself, the less likely it is that you're going to react to the negative people in your life. This grounding of the self-inside of your own center will come in handy no matter what difficult person you're dealing with or what the situation is like.
2. Learn to spot the problems in advance. Anytime that you're dealing with the same difficult people again and again, you can begin to notice the signs and patterns that indicate that a difficult time is coming. This will allow you to prepare for the best way to deal with the situation.
3. Refuse to engage in arguments. It takes two people to argue so learning how to simply disengage from the argumentative situation will be a great tool for many of the difficult times that you encounter with others.
4. Smile freely. Although it will annoy some people that you're so happy, most people are going to find it less easy to be difficult if you're smiling and being kind to them.
5. Pick your battles. You may need to engage in disagreements with difficult people from time to time  but be smart about picking your battles so that your battles so that you're only getting into heated situations when it's actually worth it to you.
6. Recognize and honor the differences between the two of you. Many of our issues with difficult people come from the fact that they have very different beliefs from us or very different ways of communicating. Look for what those differences are and then honor them in your mind. Cherish what makes you unique from them.
7. Respect others in spite of your differences and problems. A key thing to remember in dealing with all the negative  people is that it's important to try to respect everyone's right to be who they are. Treat them in a respectful manner even when you don't feel like it. Eventually they will likely return this respect.
8. Learn to set boundaries. Although you should respect others, you should also demand that they respect you. You don't do this by asking them to but instead by creating what is called healthy boundaries in all situations so that they can't infringe upon you unfairly.
9. Don't assume that your way is the right way. Even if you come up with great solutions, remain open to the possibility that you don't know everything and consider the input of the other person as well.
10. Walk away. In many cases, there may not be an easy solution to an immediate situation with a difficult person bit if you're in a position to walk away then you can at least get a break from the intensity of the situation.

Inspiration for 10/4/12

How long are you going to hold on to the things that are not working in your interests? Things that are not fulfilling? Things that are no longer productive? How long are you going to deny yourself, your feelings and your power in order to meet the demands and expectations of others? How long are you going to overdo, over give, overindulge, trying to convince yourself and others that you are worthy? Perhaps today is a good day that you will find the courage and the strength to start being worthy.
Life is not about holding on. Life is not about doing what will make others believe you are worthy. Not is it about denying yourself to make others feel better. Isn't is obivous that life is moving on while you seem to be stuck in a holding pattern? Can you not see that you  are carrying so much "stuff", perhaps so many people, that you can hardly move, let alone make any progress. In fact, doesn't it seem at times as if you are being left behind by the very ones you stayed behind to help?
Life is about moving through, moving on, growing up and growing through each and every experience. Life is about examination, elimination, and re-creation. Perhaps today is the only day you have to examine your life, to make some adjustments and changes, so that you can take full advantage of the opportunities this day offers. Today sure seems like a good day!

In Memoriam Kyra Kruz

I remember the labor day weekend in September 2012. I happened to stumble upon something striking about a man being found shot in the head dressed in woman's clothing.
As days passed the news spread fast within the LGBT community via Facebook beings though the body that was found could not be identified.
I then soon learned the body had been identified and several days from that, learning that it was Kyra. My heart skipped a beat. I started telling myself, "this is not true." I really could not believe what i was hearing. I soon become to accept the fact that Kyra was actually the one that was found dead. Now let me make this quite clear, i was able to accept the fact of Kyra being gone, but i was not able to accept the fact of the way the media described her. Kyra was not a man in womans clothing, Kyra was a transwoman! I became so irritate and angry that i immediately responded addressing the media. I got on the Philadelphia Gay Newspaper website and let them have it. I explained to them in a very nice way that they did not have to write that article the way they did, while i did understand they were going off a police report, as reporters i felt like it was obvious what was being written and they just did not have to write it like that

On 9/13/12 many, many members of the LGBT Community including members of Kyra's immediate family gathered. We gathered in love, peace, and most important in hopes of seeking justice for Kyra. I have made a page on Facebook, Justice For Kyra, https://www.facebook.com/justiceforkyra
 We laughed, cried, and shared a lot of love for Kyra. The place was jammed packed with over 200+ people that Kyra either knew directly or indirectly.
I just cannot seem to understand why someone would want to do such a thing to such a beautiful woman.

I remember seeing Kyra within the community many of times. Kyra struggled with a lot of the  same things that i have struggled with. But one thing about Kyra, she always held her head up high and had the ability to encourage me.
Kyra was very well known to the LGBT Community. She was especially known for all her work with GALAEI, the Gay and Lesbian Latino AIDS Education Initiative, a nonprofit group that focuses on HIV/AIDS outreach. Elicia Gonzales, the executive director, said Kruz turned up one day in 2010, wanting to know what she could do to help. She was initially stationed at the front desk, but later got a job counseling clients.
"She just immediately made the office light up," Gonzales said. "She didn't think of it as her job. It was her life's calling to give back to the community."

Meet Dawn Maher, Kyra's mother. Despite the circumstances, i have had the opportunity to personally meet this powerful woman. I remember the night I first met her. It was the night of Kyra's Vigil. I gave her a big hug just before the Vigil began and we exchanged a few words, not really much though.
Then it was that time for Dawn to speak about Kyra. I must say it was very hard for me to actually stand in a very crowded room to hear this woman speak. The tears began to roll, not stopping. I could feel her pain. One could only imagine what it had to of felt like for this woman.
Dawn's speech touched me. Dawn loved her daughter and still does. Dawn supported her child no matter what. It, just like many, behooves her as to why someone would do such a thing to her child.
In since meeting Dawn, i have been supportive to her and the rest of the family. 
I have made the promise to Dawn that if it is the last thing i do, i am going to assit her and the family in seeking justice for Kyra. LOVE YOU MAMA DAWN!!!

Meet me, Kat Delancey. A very well known spoken word artist and  Transwoman.
I have a lot of feelings about what has happened to my sister. I just cannot let this go unsolved. I am tired of my sisters murders going unsolved. I am tired of shit being  pushed under the rug.
I am proud to say that today i am taking a stand in seeking Justice For Kyra. Many ask me why. I tell them cause if it was me, i would want someone to do the same for me! 
Please feel free to visit the Justice For Kyra Page:  https://www.facebook.com/justiceforkyra   

Also, please visit Dawn Maher site and sign her guestbook: http://www.simplesite.com/mommadawn/






Peace and Blessings all

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SOMEWHERE

Somewhere beyond the sunsets end
The skies are bright and fair
No shadows dim, no darkness falls
The land is peaceful there

Someone with the power to heal
To guide and understand
Is waiting there to claim our fears
And take us by the hand

So when a dear one heeds the call
Our hearts should be at rest
For there beyond the rainbow end
A loving God knows best